Every Child is Unique
Biologically every child on this earth is born with unique features, different genetic built up and different mental strength and stamina. You yourself might have felt as a child, how your friends were different from you. You can share same ideas, interests, hobbies but you are yourself one single human on this earth without any copy of that.
The same goes for your child, how he is shaped in a several manners than your friend’s son or daughter. We know you always tend to compare them equally on basis of complexion, health, mental abilities, study courses and even hobbies or interests. We know it’s tough to shape a child and his mind properly; you need to follow certain do’s and don’ts to nurture a positive heart and mind. It’s not necessary that your kid grasps each and everything with the same speed or same interest like the other kid you might have seen across.
Your child might aspire to something else because that’s his area of attraction, it could be anything in the field of education, art or talent. When you tend to compare his disability with someone’s ability that lowers down the confidence and increase irritability. We witness children who are caught inside high frustration levels because of these comparative statements they ought to hear at home or during gatherings. Here, a doubt arises then how to motivate the child to do best, you feel like quoting examples to make them do good but directly those are not examples, it is one to one comparison you do to your child.Quoting examples have certain ways of just making them know what someone might have done, both have just a single line of difference. Emphasizing on the weaknesses of the child in front and then focusing on best things done by the other is what we actually end up doing by the name of reciting examples. This is just a basic reason for your child turning violent, aggressive, drowned in the vessel of hatred and usually arguing on tiniest of matters and more of like that. Even every Parent- Child counsellor give one basic NO for parenting solutions to parity i.e. comparison. Jeffrey R. Holland quotes, “Try not to compare your children, even if you think you are skilful at it. You may say most positively that "Susan is pretty and Sandra is bright," but all Susan will remember is that she isn't bright and Sandra that she isn't pretty. Praise each child individually for what that child is and help him or her escape our culture's obsession with comparing, competing, and never feeling we are "enough.”